Not having family close by when raising your kids…
December 8, 2011 § Leave a comment
I don’t know how I ended up being blessed enough to have my parents present for the birth of BOTH of my children (when we are a family that tends to live in different countries) but somehow I have. It’s amazing. For most of the time that I even thought about having children I always had it in my head that I’d probably have to do it alone. I thought that I’d for sure live so far away from everyone that I loved that it would have to be that way. So truly, I feel so blessed.
Having them here with me both before and after my daughter’s birth allowed me to walk into that hospital at 4am and not worry for one second about my boy. You can’t put a price on that kind of peace of mind. Having the ability to wake my mother up at 2am and ask her to help me time my contractions is something that I’ll never forget. The way that both of my parents took care of Théo while I stayed in the hospital for five days is also incredible. They say that it’s normal but it’s really not. Théo was confused, of course, but he was kept active with daily trips to the park or out on little excursions and he definitely knew that he was loved.
When my parents eventually left the house felt so empty and being all alone again, with no family in sight (and all of our friends living in Marseille) made me rethink why we live in the south of France and not further north, closer to Pierre’s parents, brother, sister and their respective families. We love it down here, it’s gorgeous and the weather is great but is it enough to make up for not having loved ones close by? These things are never easy so for now I’ll just concentrate on the fact that I at least have support (through emails, phone calls and skype hugs) and that I know that if I really needed it, help is just a plane ride away.
love and light,